Keeping emotions in check during a divorce

When contemplating divorce, many individuals are both driven and overwhelmed by negative emotions. While there are certainly some martial situations that warrant a quick exit, more often an individual is better off taking the time to plan and ensure their finances and emotions are in check prior to filing for divorce.

There's no doubt that emotions run high in most divorces. The process of untangling two lives, takes time and often forces each spouse to make certain personal and financial concessions. When possible, it's wise for an individual to obtain a clear financial picture prior to a divorce petition being filed.

It's also advisable to establish separate checking and credit card accounts. Taking these actions helps empower a divorcing individual to have more financial freedom and independence from a soon-to-be ex-spouse. It also helps an individual going through a divorce gain a clearer and more realistic picture of what life will be like post-divorce. For example a husband or wife may really want to stay in a family home, but come to realize it doesn't make sense financially.

In addition to the financial pitfalls often associated with divorce, there are also emotional ones. For these reasons, it's important that individuals going through a divorce ensure they have a strong support system in place prior to starting the divorce process. This is especially true in cases where spouses are fighting over highly emotional issues related to child custody.

A strong support system can include friends, relatives and even a professional therapist. No matter how strong or private an individual claims to be, everyone has a breaking point and being able to freely vent about divorce-related issues is necessary at times.

Many people claim to marry for love. Over time, however, feelings can change and cause a couple to grow apart. When one or both spouses wants to end a marriage, it's important that a divorce isn't driven by pure emotion, but rather is well thought out and planned.

Source: The Huffington Post, "The 5 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Considering a Divorce," Debbie Martinez, Oct. 15, 2013

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