Why divorce and the holidays may be a recipe for unhappiness

The holiday season is often heralded as a joyous time when families gather to share in long-held traditions and make memories. For individuals or couples who are struggling in an unhappy marriage, the holidays often represent a very different, and far less romantic, reality.

For many unhappily married couples, the thought of facing in-laws and other relatives and faking that everything is ok for the sake of keeping the peace may seem like too much to bear. There are, however, several reasons why it may make sense for a husband or wife to wait until after the holiday season to express his or her wishes to divorce.

When the word divorce comes out of an individual’s mouth, there's no going back. In many cases, the very mention of the word opens a floodgate of feelings and emotions that may lead to days or weeks of verbal arguments. It's important, therefore, that individuals contemplating informing a spouse of their desire for a divorce think long and hard about whether or not this is how they want to spend their holiday season.

In cases where minor children are involved, it's also wise to consider how such an announcement may impact a child’s happiness. The last thing any parent would want is for a beloved holiday to become forever associated with unhappy memories of a divorce announcement.

There are some situations in which an individual may not be able to put off the announcement of plans to file for divorce. In these cases, it's wise to have a game plan related to logistics that allows both spouses the opportunity to have space to think and work through difficult emotions.

The reality is that there is no ideal time to announce plans of an impending divorce. There may, however, be times that are less ideal than others and it may serve to benefit all parties involved to put off talk of divorce until the New Year rolls around.


Source: The Huffington Post, "5 Things to Know Before Asking for a Divorce During the Holidays," Michelle Crosby, Dec. 15, 2013

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