Talking to your kids during custody and visitation proceedings

A New York divorce is difficult for everyone involved -- especially the kids. As you and your spouse work to hash out child custody and visitation agreements, it is easy to forget that your kids actually have needs in the here and now. Children of divorce have special needs during and after the marital dissolution. Experts say there are a few key phrases that can help parents stay in-tune with their kids' needs during this potentially tumultuous time.

The most important thing that a child can hear from their parents during a divorce: It's not your fault. No matter whether children are five or 25, they want to know that they are not responsible for their parents' breakup. Children may perceive situations in unpredictable ways, which can lead to troubling problems during future conversations. Emphasize the fact that the child had nothing to do with your divorce.

Both parents also need to frequently communicate that they love their children, even though they might show that love in different ways. In the wake of a divorce, children often look for ways to compare their parents to each other. Some parents may simply end up spending more money or time with their children than the other during various stages of a divorce. Although living arrangements and other major life situations are going through a change, parents need to encourage their kids to give the other a chance.

New York families that are concerned about child custody and divorce issues may benefit from the assistance of a family attorney. These professionals can offer guidance to parents who are seeking a child custody modification or making an inquiry about parental relocation, among other actions. A New York attorney is a valuable ally for divorcing parents.

Source: The Huffington Post, "10 Things All Divorcing Parents Should Say To Their Kids" Sophie Rosen, Apr. 02, 2014

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