How do you keep your divorce from impacting your work?

It's only natural that a life-changing event like a divorce will impact your work. In addition to the emotional component, it can be time consuming. Of course, the more contentious or complex the divorce, the more time you're likely spending in court, meetings, conference calls and depositions.

If you're running a business or have a crucial position in your company, you may have more leeway with your time than most people do. However, you also have a multitude of responsibilities that you must continue to fulfill.

Following are some tips for minimizing the negative impact on your work and your career during a divorce. They come from the person who heads a website called DivorceForce that is devoted to helping people with all aspects of divorce.

-- Be selective about which of your colleagues you tell about the divorce. Of course, you should tell your manager, but reassure him or her that while you may need time off occasionally during the process or you may not always seem like yourself, it won't affect your commitment to your job. Beyond that, be very careful whom you tell. Word spreads fast.

-- Have an answer ready for people who either find out about it or just see that something is off. Tell them that you appreciate their concern and thank them, but politely shut down further inquiry. It can be too easy to get angry or emotional when discussing it, and you don't want that spilling over into your work life. That leads to the next tip.

-- Leave your divorce drama out of the workplace. Don't look at divorce-related emails or texts at work -- even if they're from well-meaning friends and family. Turn your cellphone off and put it away if possible. Meanwhile, keeping busy at work helps many people avoid being distracted by their personal issues. Just don't take on more than you can handle.

-- Find ways to relieve stress and improve your mood at work when divorce issues start to get to you. This can be as simple as taking a walk or listening to music on your iPod.

Many family law attorneys meet with clients after business hours whenever possible and will strive not to interrupt their workday unless absolutely necessary. Be sure to let your attorney know how he or she can help you keep the divorce from interfering with your job.

Source: Business Insider, "8 tips for surviving the workday when you're going through a divorce," Jacquelyn Smith, April 27, 2016

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