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4 ways to make sure your voice is heard during your divorce

If you are getting divorced, chances are you have already been through your fair share of yelling, fighting and exchanges of nasty, hurtful words with your ex. However, when the time comes to actually end your marriage, you might feel like you have no voice in the process.

Between your ex and the people sharing opinions and suggestions about divorce with any person going through one, you can easily get overwhelmed. But it is crucial to understand that your voice and your opinion matter, and you need to be heard. If you feel like you can't express yourself or that you don't have an opportunity to give your side of a situation, there are some things you can do to make sure you are not ignored.

  1. Get support: A legal representative is a critical resource in divorce. Your attorney can speak on your behalf and fight for the things you deserve and need, even if you can't express them yourself.
  2. Consider the environment: Communication styles vary based on the type of divorce. In fairly peaceful, amicable splits, it can be more effective to discuss situations calmly and with the help of a mediator. In contentious splits, it may be best to use a more straightforward, aggressive style.
  3. Don't lash out: Too many people let frustration and anger get the best of them during a divorce and wind up saying things they later regret. Unfortunately, lying or releasing a stream of hurtful, mean comments can actually make you seem more unpredictable and vengeful, which could ultimately make it more difficult to be heard.
  4. Understand your rights: Every person has rights in a divorce, as a parent and as a spouse. Knowing what these are and what the laws protect can give you the confidence to speak up and defend yourself.

Your voice, your opinion and your rights are just as important as your ex's during a divorce. Sadly, too many men and women find themselves in a situation where they feel like they aren't being fairly represented or considered, and this can dramatically affect matters like child custody and your divorce settlement.

Instead of throwing your hands up and assuming there is nothing you can do or say to get a fair shake in your divorce, you would be wise to contact an attorney and keep in mind the tips we shared above. With support, knowledge and some perspective, you can protect yourself and your right to be heard.

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