New York judge grants child custody to three parents

Families in New York come in all shapes and sizes. There is no one environment in which to raise a child safely and lovingly. The most important thing is that the parent or parents involved are capable of acting in the child's best interests.

In what appears to be an unprecedented decision, a Suffolk County judge has granted child custody over a 10-year-old boy born to three people who were in a polyamorous relationship -- including the woman who is not the boy's biological mother.

Polyamorous trio has baby

According to New York Magazine, the story began in 2001, when a married Long Island couple became friendly with one of their neighbors. After the neighbor broke up with her boyfriend, she moved in with the couple, and the three "began to engage in intimate relations," as the judge's ruling put it.

The three decided to have a child and raise it together. Because the wife was unable to conceive, the husband conceived the boy with the second woman. The woman gave birth to the child in 2007.

Divorce and child custody

Later, the husband and wife split up and the two women continued to have a romantic relationship. The ex-husband and biological mother agreed to joint custody, but the ex-wife sued to ask the court to secure her own custody rights, so that she would not have to rely on the other two to see the boy.

In granting custody rights to the ex-wife, the Suffolk County Supreme Court judge referred to a 2016 court ruling that lets parents without a biological connection to a child seek custody if they had a previous relationship. In this case, the judge wrote, the boy sees both women as his mothers and the women were raising him in a "loving environment."

Take charge of your child custody case

While this is an unusual custody case, it is an example of how you should always stand up for your parental rights in divorce or separation. If you want to make sure you will stay in your kids' lives, talk to an experienced family law attorney.

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