4 Tips for divorced dads in New York

Being a dad in New York in 2017 is definitely quite different from living under the same status a handful of decades ago. In fact, life in general, and particularly family life in the United States looks vastly different on the surface than what would have been considered typical back then. If you're among those in New York who are fathers and also happen to be divorced, you likely understand how challenging single parenting can be.

Your current post-divorce circumstances may include juggling multiple schedules and trying to achieve amicable agreements regarding custody and visitation or child support. There are several things you can do as a father to increase your chances of achieving positive results while also strengthening your relationship with your kids.

Keeping your childrens' best interests at the forefront

Divorce obviously necessitates changes in children's lifestyles. From the most obvious family life change, which would be that your children's parents no longer reside under the same roof, to less noticeable changes, such as potential lack of immediate access to one parent or the other, children often rely on their fathers to help them navigate emotional roller-coasters following divorce. Below, is a list of ideas that may help you keep their best interests at heart and find solutions to problems that arise:

  1. Get advice: Many dads say it helps to speak with experienced counselors and others who are knowledgeable regarding the divorce impact on children in order to gain support and information that comes in handy when challenging situations occur as new lifestyles are developed.
  2. Avoid travel: If you're always away from your children, it may prove difficult to strengthen your parent/child bonds. Some say it's best to remain close to home as often as possible following divorce so your children are able to be with you as often as they need.
  3. Make child support payments: If the court orders you to pay child support, it's best not to underestimate how making timely payments may affect your actual relationship with your kids. Failing to meet your child support obligations can lead your children to think their needs are not priorities in your life. Although such ideas may be misguided, it's typically best to rectify child support problems as swiftly as possible so your children can see you making an effort to fulfill your financial obligations in their lives.
  4. Stay in touch with your kids: Especially if you're a non-custodial parent, you will most likely not be physically present with your children 24/7 post-divorce. However, advanced technology allows almost immediate virtual access and communication that can help you stay in close contact with your kids, even if you travel far away.

You may have already figured out that willingness to compromise and cooperate with your former spouse goes a long way when it comes to achieving agreeable solutions to custody and visitation problems, as well as allowing your children to witness their parents working together to keep their own best interests at heart.

If a problem arises that you are unable to solve on your own, there is no harm in reaching out for support as many New York fathers have done in the past when trying to build successful new futures with their children following their divorces.

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