How can I bring up a prenup without angering my partner?

You've waited a long time and have finally found the person you believe you could spend the rest of your life with. The only problem is that you've spent the better part of the past decade growing your savings.

As much as you care about your significant other, you don't want to squander what you've worked so hard for if your marriage doesn't work out. If this describes one of the thoughts circulating in your mind, then you might want to draft a prenuptial agreement.

In case you're wondering how to broach the topic of a prenup with your partner without it hurting his or her feelings, then one of the best ways of doing so is to be selective about how you initiate the conversation. Instead of confronting your partner and saying that the two of you "must" get a prenup, you might want to say you want to "discuss" the idea with them.

Additionally, it's important that you clearly explain your reasoning for wanting one, but give equal time to your partner to do the same as well. It's important to validate his or her feelings. Also, if he or she becomes angry, then it's best not to push the matter, but instead agree to revisit it somewhere down the road.

Discussing a prenup is a great barometer of sorts for trying to gain a better perspective as to how you and your future husband or wife will be able to handle touchy financial discussions. Understanding where each of you stands with respect to money may give you a much clearer idea as to whether you really want to proceed with the marriage.

If your partner is under the impression that you're purposefully trying to disadvantage him or her financially by having him or her sign a prenup, then this may shed light on flaws in your relationship. You may choose to either talk through them or it may inspire you to make concessions to let him or her know that's not the case.

If you're getting married and you want to protect your assets in the event that the relationship comes to an unexpected conclusion, then a Manhattan attorney can provide guidance in your legal matter.

Source: Business Insider, "How to ask for a prenup without causing a breakup," Libby Kane, accessed Jan. 05, 2018

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