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Why You Shouldn't Keep Your Divorce A Secret At Work

Even if you're one of those people who takes great pains to keep your personal life separate from your work life, if you're going through a divorce, you're going to need to at least share the information with your boss. Even if you're determined not to let the divorce interfere with your work, it's bound to impact it in some way, as any major life event would. If you plan to tell other colleagues, that's fine. However, tell your boss first.

Men face special challenges during a divorce

As much as New York and other states boast of tolerance and equality when it comes to marriage and divorce, you may be among the many men who worry that your rights will not receive the same consideration when you and your spouse go to court. Traditionally, women have a better chance at gaining custody of the children, leaving ex-husbands with child and spousal support payments that put them at a financial disadvantage.

Although the laws have changed and evolved over the years, it is not always true that the generations-old biases about the roles of men and women in marriages have changed. Because of this, it is important for you to ensure you make the most of every opportunity to protect your rights throughout the divorce process.

Ensure that you're not out of the loop with your child's school

As you work through the details of your custody agreement with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, it may be wise to include some language that ensures that you are kept informed about your child's school performance and activities. This is especially crucial for non-custodial parents who too often find themselves out of the loop in these areas.

While New York City schools have plenty of students whose parents live separately, they're not always adept at communicating information to both of them. In some cases, their databases only allow one mailing address per child.

Why long-distance parents should exchange letters with their kids

If you're a non-custodial parent living hundreds or thousands of miles from your kids, you've likely worked out numerous ways to keep in touch -- via texts, emails, video chatting, phone calls and social media. But it's likely that writing letters isn't among them.

Letter writing, many people lament, is becoming a lost art. In fact, depending on the school district in which the kids are enrolled, some New York students aren't even taught cursive anymore.

What fathers should know when seeking child custody

When parents divorce or unmarried parents with children decide to go their separate ways, it's always best when they can reach an agreement on custody and visitation, with the guidance of their attorneys. If a couple can't do that, a judge will have to decide the matter based on the best interests of the children.

Fathers who seek shared custody of their kids may fear that they'll be at a disadvantage in court. However, family court judges no longer work under the assumption that children need their mothers more than their fathers or that women are naturally better parents than men. In fact, that's considered discrimination. It's no more acceptable than discriminating against parents because of their race or sexual orientation.

A prenuptial agreement can protect your business

If you are planning a wedding, you certainly have many things on your to-do list. In addition to renting a hall and hiring caterers, you have to make arrangements so that your business can continue functioning while you are away on your honeymoon. Since your business is your livelihood, it is important that you not lose track of it during the excitement and emotion of planning the big day.

Whether your company is brand new and still struggling or you are established in your industry and making a profit, protecting your interests is important, and your soon-to-be spouse hopefully understands this. To ensure the longevity of your business, you should not overlook the importance of getting a prenuptial agreement.

President's son and his wife say they reached custody agreement

Donald Trump, Jr. and his wife Vanessa have largely kept their divorce out of the public eye. Vanessa Trump filed for divorce from her husband of 13 years in March.

However, the estranged couple made an appearance, accompanied by their attorneys, in a New York courtroom on July 26. The two entered and exited the courtroom together, reportedly seemed relaxed and even smiled occasionally during the hearing.

Men, women and income disparity in marriage

The number of couples in which the woman earns more than the man is growing. In about a quarter of opposite-sex marriages, wives outearn their husbands.

However, many people, both men and women, in marriages where the wife outearns her husband still have conflicted feelings about how much men and women should earn. More than twice as many people in one survey said that a man should be able to financially support his family than believe that a woman should be able to.

A prenuptial agreement could save your marriage

This may sound odd since most people associate prenuptial agreements with divorce. However, many people find that entering into a prenuptial agreement actually gives them an advantage over other New York couples.

For some reason, people don't like to talk about finances, even with the person whom they intend to spend the rest of their lives. In fact, money remains one of the most contentious subjects in most marriages, and it can lead to divorce.

What you need to know about court-ordered life insurance

Many Americans have life insurance -- particularly if they are the primary breadwinners and have spouses and/or children who could be devastated financially if they die. If you're divorcing, don't assume that you'll be able to remove your spouse as the beneficiary of your policy. If you are going to be paying spousal and/or child support, you won't.

Even if you don't currently have life insurance, you may be ordered by the court to get it if you will be paying support. Without it, your family could face the same financial devastation as they would if you were all still living together.

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